Until now, I wasn’t very familiar with this habit. I had heard about it, but I hadn’t truly understood the concept of win-win. I think I might have overlooked it thinking literally of the concept win. However, this deeper understanding has led me to an epiphany. I have seen the traditional concept of the win-lose model, and how it can cause a lot of turmoil in both personal and professional relationships. Relationships should be mutually beneficial; however when one or both of the people in the relationship have this mentality, obviously there will always be a loser. In the lose-lose or lose-win relationship, personalities and pride are prioritized and people go to the extreme to give up their goals, so that no one no one wins. There are so many systems in our society that create competitive, rather than cooperative cultures in which people quickly adapt. Progress, advancement and cooperation can be the result, if people truly understood the concept of the win-win habit. If one truly understood the power of working together to achieve a better outcome, our society and culture would prosper.
My Habit
Epiphany moment. There have been times where I have chosen to work in isolation with the belief that I can work better and faster, alone. Without the worry of making time to get others together at the same time and place, without having to communicate, and without having to worry if things would get done, I would choose to forge ahead with the task at hand, alone. Reflecting on some of those times, I feel I was successful on making things happen and/or producing a final product; however I can’t say that it was the best, or most effective work. This past year, I have worked on several projects with a team. They were collaborative efforts, where everyone equally contributed and communicated, and the final product was a success. One of those projects was the planning of the my district’s professional development to kick-off the new school year. The planning began with three of us. We then shared our blueprint with administration and received feedback. We revised it and shared it a few more times. The end result was a successful 3-day professional development to kick-off the new school year. The overall comments and feedback from teachers and staff were all positive. This was definitely a win-win situation.
My Commitment
As I was reading about the win-win habit, I knew exactly how I was going to impart my new understanding of this habit to my daughter. She has been playing for many years, but it wasn’t until this past year that she has been playing with other girls that she doesn’t know, from different cities and backgrounds. Now as she is starting a new year, with new teammates, I know understanding this habit will be beneficial to her and the team.
We had our weekly sessions while she was watching video of her most recent game where they came out short 12. I swayed the conversation to teamwork, and she quickly analyzed her strengths and areas of growth. She identified several instances where she and her other teammates couldn’t have involved the team more to work in their favor. She also identified the strengths of the opposing team in regards to working together. I described instances of win-lose or lose-lose and the consequences. She didn’t say much, but I know she was processing the information by the comments she made about the rest of the game.
My Habit
Epiphany moment. There have been times where I have chosen to work in isolation with the belief that I can work better and faster, alone. Without the worry of making time to get others together at the same time and place, without having to communicate, and without having to worry if things would get done, I would choose to forge ahead with the task at hand, alone. Reflecting on some of those times, I feel I was successful on making things happen and/or producing a final product; however I can’t say that it was the best, or most effective work. This past year, I have worked on several projects with a team. They were collaborative efforts, where everyone equally contributed and communicated, and the final product was a success. One of those projects was the planning of the my district’s professional development to kick-off the new school year. The planning began with three of us. We then shared our blueprint with administration and received feedback. We revised it and shared it a few more times. The end result was a successful 3-day professional development to kick-off the new school year. The overall comments and feedback from teachers and staff were all positive. This was definitely a win-win situation.
My Commitment
As I was reading about the win-win habit, I knew exactly how I was going to impart my new understanding of this habit to my daughter. She has been playing for many years, but it wasn’t until this past year that she has been playing with other girls that she doesn’t know, from different cities and backgrounds. Now as she is starting a new year, with new teammates, I know understanding this habit will be beneficial to her and the team.
We had our weekly sessions while she was watching video of her most recent game where they came out short 12. I swayed the conversation to teamwork, and she quickly analyzed her strengths and areas of growth. She identified several instances where she and her other teammates couldn’t have involved the team more to work in their favor. She also identified the strengths of the opposing team in regards to working together. I described instances of win-lose or lose-lose and the consequences. She didn’t say much, but I know she was processing the information by the comments she made about the rest of the game.